Wednesday, 16 November 2016

Name Calling + Homophobia || WI #1

One of my best friends was hurt today. Not physically hurt like punched or anything, but they were hurt. And you see, if anyone I even remotely care about gets hurt, I go absolutely mental.

Today someone said something to her that hurt them. It was just words, but I could see how upset and hurt my friend was - and I wasn't having it. I talked to them after school, we talked about telling our form tutor about it, but then she was scared. They were scared that if they told our form tutor about what those people had said to her, that he would treat them differently or tell other people. She was worried.

Here's my point:

Its 2016. TWO THOUSAND AND SIXTEEN. And people are still using 'lesbian', 'gay' and other LGBT+ "labels" as insults. WAT. WAT. We are getting better as a world, we are improving, we are evolving. At least, that's what I thought. But we're not really, are we? I mean, teenagers, and even little kids, are using these words because they think they'll be able to upset people by using them. I'm sorry but that's not okay... actually, I'm not sorry at all. ITS JUST NOT OKAY.

People kill themselves over this. People think that their lives aren't worth anything. People get bullied and hated because of this. People die. And all because a silly kid thought calling them 'gay' was a good insult to use on them.

Now, I'm not going to claim that I've never used that as an insult - because I have, when I was 7. Seven. But I've grown as a person, I know what it means now. I know that calling people by those things could really hurt them. I've grown up. You see, the thing is, there are people out there, my age and older, who haven't grown up. They are still acting like children.

Now, back to my friend. My friend is one of the sweetest, nicest people I've ever had the pleasure of meeting. But she has had these words used against her - practically on a daily basis. Now, let me clear some things up. (1) She is not offended by being called things - there is nothing to be offended about, its not a bad thing (2) She is hurt by this, yeah, but only because people are using those words as insults.

And now, to the people who use words like that to hurt people who may identify as it:

You have upset me. You have made me angry. You have hurt my best chum, which coincidently, upsets and angers me soooo - you are in trouble. Any-hoo, by calling people what they may identify as, as a joke or as an insult, you hurt them. You make them feel as though they shouldn't be themselves, that they shouldn't be who they are and that they should keep it to themselves. And guess what, using LGBT+ labels as jokes, really means that you think its weird or wrong so guess what, my dear - homophobic! Yep, you may think its a joke, but its not. I am sick and tired of my lovely chum telling me how much people who we both thought we her friends say things to her and call her things that she makes clear, upset her.

So for crying out loud, its 2016. If you are one of those people who do what I described above, grow up, you are being stupid, you are hurting someone, get your arse into gear, and weigh up what you think and say. Think before you speak.

Thank you x

{I know this sounded quite ranty and that, but I don't care. I needed to get it all out best I could. Thank you for reading xx}

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