IT'S TIME FOR AN UNEXPECTED, NOT PLANNED, YET VERY IMPORTANT BLOG POST! Woo yeah!
That's right people! I only found out like half an hour ago that its International Women's Day! And as a feminist, who has very strong views on this topic, I'm going to share them with you! I was inspired to do this by Louise (Sprinkle of Glitter) and Dodie Clark's videos today, so go and check them out after this!
Recently, we had to do a speech in my English class about something in the world we'd like to change and I, obviously, did feminism. And seen as this post was not scheduled or pre-planned, I'm going to write it out for you because my teacher thought I did it quite well *I think she did anyway, I got like 12 out of 15, so, take from that what you will*. Let's begin!
Women are put down everyday, by men, and that's not okay.
Feminism is defined as 'the advocacy of women's rights on the ground of equality of the sexes'. So, before you think that feminism is about women wanting to be more powerful than men, its not. Its about wanting men and women to be equal.
When I told people I was going to talk about feminism, I got odd responses. I'm not sure why. It may be because people think that being a feminist means you are a man-hater or that you think women are better than men. But to say that you are not a feminist, that means you think that men should have better/more opportunities and power than women.
Boys - I'd like you to go up to every woman in your life, whether that is your Mum, Grandma, sister, auntie, cousin, friend, girlfriend, teacher, whoever, and explain to them why you think that they shouldn't have as much power of opportunities as you.
Tony Porter said, "If it would destroy [a boy] to be called a girl, what are we teaching them about girls?"
A phrase often used is 'like a girl'. You throw 'like a girl'. You run 'like a girl'. You fight 'like a girl'. You kick 'like a girl'. When and why did 'like a girl' become an insult? This phrase is used, mainly by males, to imply weakness and the fact that they 'weren't good enough'. Girls, and the boys that has had that said to them, it doesn't matter what anybody else says. If you're still scoring, still being first and you're doing your best, you doing it right. Girls, you kick like a girl, you throw like a girl, you wake up in the morning like a girl. And that is not something that someone should make you feel ashamed of. Why can't 'run like a girl' also mean win the race?
I researched this topic and I'd like to share some of the things I found with you:
- For most of history, "Anonymous" was a woman
- Both genders should learn how to cook because sexism isn't going to help you when you're hungry
- Mulan had to pretend to be a man in order to be respected
- A girl posted something about the advantages of wearing over sized sweaters. A boy commented "guys think they're totally not cute. lol". The girl then replied, "the day I dress for a man is the day they dress me in my coffin to see Jesus"
- "Stop telling girls to not do something. Not because they couldn't do it, its because the thought would have never occurred to them if you hadn't mentioned it".
- "Women are more likely to be attracted to personality and boys are going to more likely attracted to looks. Maybe this is because we teach girls to see men as people, and we teach men to see girls as objects"
Boys - women are not weak, stupid or ugly. We are strong, intelligent and we can be unstoppable. The only reason that girls can't be unstoppable, is because they are not given the opportunity to try.
*Back to now*
Now boys, put yourself in the shoes of a women, how would you feel if you were in an argument with a boy, and you're trying to get your point across but he isn't taking you seriously and you just get told "you're only mardy because you're on your period". Imagine having to get up earlier in the morning so that you can make yourself look a certain way, so that you will get attention. How would you feel if a PE teacher asked a group of people to go and move some equipment, but they only chose boys, as they needed someone 'strong'. Imagine having to stay at home an 'keep house' until your husband got home from work. Just think about how hard a girl's life is before you judge them for their appearance or for what they are, not who they are.
In Dodie's video, she was asked to give 3 words to describe women. My three are:
What I'm trying to get across to you is, girls you don't have to do things you don't want to do, whether that's wear make up, dress a certain way, pretend to be someone you're not, whatever.
Boys, women are not objects. We are not here for you to use or for us to be something that does everything for you. I think its time that men start appreciating how hard a woman's life is and that all women are beautiful and that looks aren't important.
Now for a little about me...
I can't leave the house before school in the morning without looking in the mirror. I wish this wasn't the case, but it is. I tell my friends that I don't really give a monkeys what I look like, but I do. I care about what people think of me, and I don't like that about myself. I have to make myself look some-what 'presentable' before school because, and this really upsets me, because there are boys there. I hate this about myself so much, but somewhere, deep inside my head, I think that if I don't look 'right' then no one will ever like me. And I know its stupid, but its the truth. I think its because, when I was younger, I learnt that boys will like you if you're pretty, and I still haven't managed to get this stupid thought out of my head.
I hate feeling like this and I don't want to feel like this anymore. And don't want any other girls to feel like this either. I have two cousins, both girls, that are younger than me. I don't want them to grow up thinking they have to live a certain way to impress people. If I have a little girl in the future, I don't want her to grow up thinking that either. I don't want any girls to grow up thinking like that, but I know this will happen if no one does anything.
That's why I became a feminist. I became a feminist because I want to help make a difference in society, I know that this blog post won't do a lot, but it might encourage you to become a feminist and share that with other people. That way, we could make a difference.
Thank you for reading this, if you agree with me or even if you just liked this post, please share this, or maybe even just the message, with people.